Proverbs 5verse18-20: ‘Let your fountain be blessed, and rejoice with the wife of your youth. As a loving deer and a graceful doe, let her breasts satisfy you at all times; and always be enraptured with her love. For why should you, my son, be enraptured by an immoral woman, and be embraced in the arms of a seductress.’ 

My dearly beloved ones, I trust you have been blessed by this series of messages on a healthy marriage! A solid and strong marriage is God’s expectation and desire concerning you, so refuse to settle for anything less! You can have a productive and wonderful relationship with your spouse. This is what this series of lessons is all about, and I believe your relationship will get better as a result of these truths. I expect Jehovah to supernaturally visit your homes in this Season! I have been sharing with you the signs or indicators of a healthy marriage. The focus of our discussion today will be on another crucial principle for building strong marriages. So if you are ready, here we go! 

INDICATORS OF A HEALTHY MARRIAGE: 

1. Mutual Growth. A healthy relationship is one in which the couple is growing and changing for the better. Change is a visible sign of Growth. So are you experiencing a change in any area of your relationship with your spouse? (Lk1v80) Both of you are expected to grow together and not grow aside or apart! If you are growing and your partner too is growing, the marriage itself will grow. On the other hand, if either or only one of us is growing, it will not help you make better progress. So the bottom line is to ensure that you are constantly growing and improving yourself! 

First, put a value on your personal growth and also challenge one another to grow on a corporate level. In this way, you will be doing yourself a whole lot of good! So my dear reader, make up your minds to grow! Stay committed to the process! Don’t joke with the issue of your growth, as this will help to get better in the relationship. 

So what are the areas that you and your spouse need to grow in? 

– Growing in your walk with God (2Pet.3v18). 

– Growing emotionally, i.e. emotional stability, security, and intelligence. 

– Growing mentally, i.e. your understanding, reasoning, etc. 

– Growing in your body, i.e. physically or bodily. 

– Growing in your finances.  

– Growing in your love.  

– Growing professionally.  

– Growing socially.  

My dear reader, just ensure that by all possible means, you are growing! Avoid stagnation by all possible means! Say no to monotony! As you embrace growth, it will take your relationship to another level! You will get better and so also shall your marriage in Jesus name, amen. 

Other Scriptural References: (2Pet.3v18; 1Pet.2v2; Lk.2v40, 52; 2Cor.3v18). 

Prayer for Today: Father God, help me to take my growth in my relationship with my spouse to another level in Jesus name, amen. 

CONFESSION: Growth is what makes progress and development possible! Therefore, I embrace growth and I say no to stagnation and retrogression! I am focused on growing together with my spouse. We are changing from one level of Glory to another. Glory to God, my walk with my partner is getting better in Jesus name, amen. 

Pastor Yemi Adeoti

Yemi Adeoti is a pastor, teacher, life coach and mentor & also a prolific writer.