Therapy For Your Marriage 3

Proverbs 15:22 Without counsel purposes are disappointed: but in the multitude of counsellors they are established.

Do I really need therapy for my marriage? This is an interesting question to ask yourself, but if you are brutally frank with yourself, you agree with me that your marriage needs help and counselling, in order for it to be what God really intended for it to be. If you have been following this conversation, I said in our last lesson that there are certain Indicators or signs you see that show to you that your marriage needs therapy. Today, by God’s special grace, I Intend to share five more indicators that show you might need Therapy. So let’s get down to business right away.

INDICATORS THAT SHOWS YOUR MARRIAGE NEEDS THERAPY:

6. If there are incidences of physical, emotional, or verbal abuse in your relationship. Dearly Beloved, this is one of the major Indicators that your marriage needs serious help and assistance. The Truth of the matter is that no form of abuse is good or healthy for any marriage. If you are the kind of partner that always beats or hurts your spouse emotionally or physically, its time to get all the help and counseling that you can get. I pray for courage for you to be able to do whats expected of you in Jesus name, amen.

7. When you are cruel or mean to your partner. If you discover that you are always vindictive, vicious or wicked towards your spouse, you need help and assistance. I encourage you to get all the help you can muster so as to be able to live the kind of life that God has in mind for you. Pro11v17

8. If you often bully, harass or even intimidate your spouse. I know that this may seem funny, but it does happen. in fact, I have seen such kind of stuff in my counselling experience. So if you are a bully, harasser, or intimidator, then it certainly means that you need some form of counseling or the other.

9. If you find it difficult to control your emotions, temper, or outburst. This is one of the vital signs of a partner needing Therapy. Do you know that there is a difference between talking with your spouse and talking at or talking down your spouse? Anyone who can’t keep his or her anger under control or under check is certainly not yet matured and definitely needs some form of counseling or the other. It’s high time you deal with your anger or emotional outburst. God has given you the power to subdue the Flesh. So start putting your flesh where it truly belongs. Prov25v28

10. If you are not free and open with another. A husband and wife are supposed to be open and transparent with each other. This is the example that Adam and Eve set at the beginning (Gen2v25). So how open are you to your spouse? I have discovered that at times the atmosphere in some homes is like the legendary cartoon characters (Tom and Jerry) i.e., always suspicious and not being free with each other. This should not be the case if you really want to enjoy the fullness of God’s blessings. This is the time to do away with all forms of concealing and hiding things from each other. If you are not free with your spouse or open with yourselves, it’s an indication of the fact that you need help and counseling. Gen2v25.

Beloved, how would you score yourself with regards to these points I have analyzed with you today? It’s time to be sincere with yourself as this is how you can find succor and restoration in Jesus name, amen. So will you take the step to your full recovery?

Other Scriptural references: Eccle7v9: Pro14v17; 16v32: Matt5v17: Jer33v6: Ps51v17: Isa57v15

Prayer for Today: Holy Spirit rid me of every contrary attitude and disposition in my marital life in Jesus name amen

CONFESSION: Thank you, Father, for I am being changed from glory to glory! The Holy Spirit is changing me from the inside out. I am doing away with every work of the flesh in my marriage and I am embracing the peace and fruits of the Spirit. Thank you, Father, for touching my marital life in Jesus name, amen.