Therapy For Your Marriage 2

Proverbs 15:22 Without counsel purposes are disappointed: but in the multitude of counsellors they are established.

You are welcome back to our discourse on therapy for your marriage. I am convinced that this series of teachings will be a great blessing to your marriage and even relationships in general. In our last lesson, I laid a foundation on this great and important subject matter; today, by his grace, I will go a step further by sharing with you the indicators that show your marriage needs therapy. Its important to address this area because one of the ways by which you can know the kind of therapy that your marriage needs is by the answers you give to these questions; I will be sharing with you. In other words, you know the kind of therapy that your marriage needs by the answers you give to these questions. So what are these signs or indicators? They are as follows:

INDICATORS THAT SHOWS YOUR MARRIAGE NEEDS THERAPY:

1. If you don’t easily take corrections or rebuke. This is a vital sign that you need therapy as a partner if you constantly display this kind of attitude. Nobody is perfect, so when you find it difficult to admit your faults or errors, it will negatively impact your marriage. So how will you describe yourself when it comes to taking corrections? Pro29v1

2. If you find it difficult to apologize or make peace. This is also another sign that a marriage needs counselling or help. Some people just can’t say sorry or apologize and this won’t help your marriage or even relationships generally. The Truth of the matter is that saying sorry doesn’t diminish you or make you weak; instead, it’s a sign of maturity and love. So what kind of person are you when it comes to apologizing to your spouse? The answer you give to this question will tell whether you would need therapy or not. Rom12v18

3. If you find it difficult to forgive and let go of things. Unforgiveness, malice and bitterness would do you no good at all. This is why you need to deal with all manner of resentful feelings towards your spouse. Is forgiveness a big deal or a small issue with you? Any marriage where unforgiveness is still an issue is certainly a marriage that would need loads of help and counseling. So, where would you place yourself in this matter? Eph4v31-32

4. If you are inconsiderate and unwilling to shift grounds or your positions. Its important for you to know that you can’t afford to be too rigid except when it comes to matters that are related to principles. The truth is that principles never change, but methods are subject to change. So how would you describe yourself? Are you the flexible or inconsiderate type of partner?

5. If you find it difficult to resolve your issues and differences. You and your partner aren’t the same but the fact that you are different is not enough reason that you can’t work together. A husband and his wife would always be different from one another, but when you can’t resolve your conflicts amicably, its a sign that all is not well. Any marriage where there is excessive conflict is not a healthy marriage. In fact, if you are always fighting with your spouse and you’re not able to resolve your differences properly, it’s a sign that your marriage needs immediate help and assistance. And the earlier you do this, the better for your marriage! So my dear reader, how would you evaluate yourself regarding this point I just made now? Your answer will determine the kind of therapy that you would need. Eph4v27

Dearly Beloved, it’s time to carry out an audit on your relationship with your spouse as this will help you know the areas that need strengthing and the ones that are okay. I pray that your marriage will get stronger and stronger as you do this.

Other Scriptural references: Pro14v1; 15v12,31-32: Col3v13: Eccle9v9: Jer17v14: Ps147v3: Jer30v17

Prayer for Today: Holy Spirit grant me the courage to make the necessary changes in my marital life in Jesus name amen.

CONFESSION: I receive the visitation of God in my marriage! I receive new life into every dead area of my relationship. The old is gone; behold, the new has come. As I submit to God’s counsel and help my marriage is experiencing a transformation in Jesus name amen