Romams13verse7: ‘Render therefore to all their dues: tribute to whom tribute is due; custom to whom custom; fear to whom fear; honour to whom honour.’

Respect is one of the foundations of a healthy relationship, and it’s another important pillar for a successful marriage. Respect is not a matter of age, financial conditions or social status but of character, understanding and knowledge. This is why a lack of respect or dishonour can ruin your marriage. So before we start looking at some of the indicators of disrespect, we need to understand what respect is all about.

Respect could be defined as follows:

-The way a person treats something or someone he or she values.

-To recognise the worth of a person or thing, showing regard for their abilities and worth. 1Pet3v7

So, what are some of the signs of disrespect in a marriage? 

SIGNS OF DISRESPECT:

1. Ignoring boundaries. 

2. Giving the silent treatment. 

3. Flirtation with Others. 

4. Not prioritising your spouse. 

5. Lies. Col3v9.

6. Not accepting their Imperfections. 

7. Putting your partner down. 

8. Invading their personal space. 

9. Belittling their feelings. 

10. Not willing to compromise. 

11. Breaking your promises. 

12. Not acknowledging accomplishments.

13. Not apologising. 

14. Taking major decisions individually. 

15. Treating your spouse poorly. 

My dear friends, I trust that you are receiving wisdom and direction from these nuggets that I am sharing with you today. Join me in the next lesson for the continuation of this series.

Other Scriptural References: Gen16v1-9; Eph5v33; Heb13v4; Pro22v28.

Prayer for Today: Holy Spirit, help me in dealing with obstacles to respecting my partner in Jesus name amen. 

CONFESSION: Lord, help me appreciate and support my spouse! Help me in making them feel heard and valued. Help me in respecting them like I ought to so that your name will be glorified in my life and home in Jesus name, amen.