Amos 3v3: Can two walk together, unless they are agreed?
A Chain is as strong as its weakest link. This is why you need to pay attention to the little things because it has the potential to ruin the bigger things. This is why I have been sharing with you on the subject of Signs of an Unhealthy Marriage! God’s design and agenda is for you to have a strong marriage! But a Healthy Marriage does not come by wishing or wondering, but it comes by playing your role and part. This is why when things are not working well in your home, several things could be responsible. I have been sharing with you some of the red flags that can show that all is not well in a Marital Relationship. Today by his Grace, we proceed to look at some other indicators. So if you are ready, here we go!
SIGNS OF AN UNHEALTHY MARRIAGE:
5. There is no more Honesty and Sincerity. Trust is the foundation of any meaningful relationship, so when there is mistrust or distrust, it’s an indication that all is not well in your home. This is why you need to pay attention to this dangerous sign! It’s time to rebuild the trust that might have been eroded in your relationship. It’s possible to achieve this, but it won’t happen overnight. So are you willing to give it everything you got in order for things to work? (Pro31v11)
6. You have stopped arguing. Experts say that arguing and reasoning together is a strong component of a healthy marriage. This is also referred to as “Fighting Fair”. At times, some couples have stopped arguing because they have given up on the relationship or want to play it safe, i.e. they don’t want to air their opinions. It’s better to be truthful to yourself and to your marriage instead of pretending or being hypocritical. So my dear reader, how would you rate yourself when it comes to reasoning with your partner? Are you sincere in your reasoning or just pretentious? (Eph.4v25-27).
7. Your spouse is no longer a priority. This is a serious sign of things not working well in any relationship. In fact, it’s a deadly sign that needs to be addressed as soon as possible. The truth of the matter is that your spouse is supposed to be part of your plans, goals, and aspirations. Anything that is not making you prioritize your partner is an enemy of your marriage. And the earlier you attack it, the better for you. I pray that you will find the courage and wisdom to do so today.
8. You refuse to get help in your marriage. This is another important indicator of things not going well in your home and this can manifest in the following ways:
– When you are Unwilling to get Help.
– When you are not ready to work on your marriage.
– When you are not interested in fixing your marriage.
My dear brothers and sisters, little or nothing can be done for anyone who refuses to get help (Pro.15v12: 29v1).
My dear reader, how would you describe your relationship with your spouse, considering some of the things I have shared with you today? Whichever condition you are in, it’s never too late to make amends. I pray that today will mark your moment of Transformation in Jesus name, amen.
Other Scriptural References: (Col.3v9; Pro.12v19, 22; Eph.5v21, 25; Col.3v19; Pro.17v10, 28; 1Tim.5v18).
Prayer for Today: Father God, visit every unhealthy area of my marriage today in Jesus name, amen.
CONFESSION: I am open to change and to also becoming a better person in my marriage. I receive Grace and wisdom in working out my salvation with fear and trembling in my marriage. I am ready to give it my best shot. I am willing to work on my marriage and I am ready to obey his will. Lord help me in this regard and journey in Jesus name, amen.
Yemi Adeoti is a pastor, teacher, life coach and mentor & also a prolific writer.
I receive grace and wisdom in making my marriage work. In Jesus name