Col.3v12-15: Therefore, as the elect of God, holy and beloved, put on tender mercies, kindness, humility, meekness, longsuffering, bearing with one another, and forgiving one another, if anyone has a complaint against another; even as Christ forgave you, so you also must do. But above all these things put on love, which is the bond of perfection. And let the peace of God rule in your hearts, to which also you were called in one body; and be thankful.
Resolving Marital Conflicts on time and amicably is one of the secrets of a Successful Marriage. This is what God wants for you and this is what this series of lessons is all about. It’s my hope and prayer that your Marriage will get stronger and better as a result of these truths we have been sharing. It’s not just enough to know something, it’s applying it that changes one’s life. So my dear reader, make up your mind to apply these powerful principles that I have been sharing with you. I am confident that your life won’t be the same again in Jesus name, amen. So what are the other things that can help someone in resolving their marital conflicts?
WAYS OF RESOLVING MARITAL CONFLICTS:
8. Be Willing to change. Be willing to accept your faults, errors, or flaws and, more importantly, make amends appropriately. This is another vital key in resolving conflicts in your home. My dearly beloved ones, without change, there can’t be peace and progress in your marriage. So be willing to repent. Be willing to turn a new leaf. Stop living in self-denial. Accept the truth courageously and make changes accordingly, too. Be willing to change your mind, ways, methods, and approach for the good of your home. Don’t be stubborn or Arrogant! So make up your mind from today that you will be open to change and you will also be a change agent in your home (Hag. 1v5, 7).
9. Resolve your conflicts quickly and timely too. What do I mean by this? I simply mean that you should never allow conflicts to linger on without resolving them because it’s dangerous to allow things to linger on. It can even be catastrophic to your union. So neither give place to Satan (Eph.4v26-27). On the other hand, as you seek to resolve issues on time, also ensure that you look out for the appropriate time or avenue in resolving your issues. The atmosphere matters a lot. So make sure the atmosphere and mood are right. This will aid you in resolving your conflicts amicably. So seek the right time and atmosphere (Eccle.3v1, 11). You will not fail as you do this in Jesus name, amen.
10. Always focus on Resolving the Issues at hand and not on attacking one another. You must be able to separate the person from the problem. This will help you greatly in getting rid of your issues very well. Learn how to speak to your spouse and not speak at each other. Focus on talking with each other. Focus on the problem and not the person. Avoid cursing or abuses of whatsoever nature. Keep such things far away from you if you want to successfully resolve your conflicts because these things are capable of setting any home on fire. As a matter of policy, make sure there are no abuses or derogatory words used against your spouse for any reason in the World. This will greatly help you in settling the rifts in your home (Eph.4v29).
I see you rising above every negative wind against your marriage. I see you profiting immensely from this series of teachings in Jesus name, amen. So go forth and win big in your Marriage!
Other Scriptural References: (Pro.15v1; Col.4v6; Eph.5v4; Rom.12v18; Matt.5v25-26).
Prayer for Today: Precious Holy Spirit, help me to be a doer of these truths that I have learnt today in Jesus name, amen.
CONFESSION: My Home shall be a haven of peace and tranquillity! It shall be a habitation where God reigns and rules. Out of my home will arise a godly generation and my home shall be a source of inspiration to others because of the peace and harmony that I enjoy. Glory be to God, because I am becoming a better Manager of Conflicts in my home as I embrace the truths of God’s Word fully to me in Jesus name, amen.
Yemi Adeoti is a pastor, teacher, life coach and mentor & also a prolific writer.
Glory be to God, because I am becoming a better Manager of Conflicts in my home as I embrace the truths of God’s Word