Col.3v12-15: Therefore, as the elect of God, holy and beloved, put on tender mercies, kindness, humility, meekness, longsuffering, bearing with one another, and forgiving one another, if anyone has a complaint against another; even as Christ forgave you, so you also must do. But above all these things put on love, which is the bond of perfection. And let the peace of God rule in your hearts, to which also you were called in one body; and be thankful.

Can someone really be able to deal with their marital conflicts? The answer is a definite YES! It’s possible to know how to resolve your conflicts with your spouse! There is no Problem without a Solution. There is no challenge that cannot be subdued. This is why God is bringing this series of lessons your way. I pray that your Marriage will find peace and lasting healing through these messages in Jesus name, amen. So how should someone go about Resolving their Marital Conflicts?

WAYS OF RESOLVING MARITAL CONFLICTS:

1. Find common grounds of agreement. I know it might not be possible for you and your spouse to agree on all fronts but it’s possible to find things that you can both agree on. This is what I mean by finding common ground. Instead of fighting, fussing, or arguing, choose to find what you can easily agree on. This is one of the cheapest ways of making peace in your conflicts. So why not make this your goal. Once both of you are willing to shift or make adjustments, it becomes easier in achieving peace (Amos 3v3).

2. Find out what God has to say about the matter. This is one thing couples hardly do and this at times can be the solution to your problems. So make up your mind to stop the argument or fussing, instead find out what God’s word says about the matter. Let God’s word be the Final Authority on any issue. And the good thing is that there is nothing that you are currently facing now that God’s word does not have an Answer to. So make up your mind from today in consulting God’s word concerning any area of challenge in your Marriage. Once you know what the word says, just do it. When you make this kind of decision, you will be able to solve your problems better (Isa.34v16).

3. Be willing to talk. My dear reader, you must be willing to talk if you will successfully deal with the issues in your marriage. I have discovered that no conflicts can be amicably resolved without a Willingness to talk. Talking is Therapeutic. It helps you to relieve pressure, burdens, or stress. So it’s time to come out of your shell. Be willing to come to the table. Be willing to talk. Keeping silent or pretending there is no problem will not resolve that matter. So it’s time for you to confront the issues before you. You need to remember that you can’t conquer what you refuse to confront (Isa.1v18). It’s important to also realize that listening is also a major part of talking. My dear brothers and sisters, it’s far better to talk about your issues than to keep silent. So make up your mind from today that you will profitably engage this principle. I see you winning Big in Jesus name, amen.

Other Scriptural references: (Pro.28v13; Isa.43v26; Jn5v39;Gen21v22;Eph4v3;Rev3v6,13,22

Prayer for Today: Holy Spirit, help me to imbibe these attributes we have spoken about today in Jesus name, amen.

CONFESSION: I am willing to learn. I am ready to get better. As I deploy these truths, things will never be the same again in my Marriage. I walk in the light. I am no longer walking in the dark. The light of God is Shining my ways and paths. I am getting better in my relationship with my spouse! Glory be to his name. His help is my Refuge!

Pastor Yemi Adeoti

Yemi Adeoti is a pastor, teacher, life coach and mentor & also a prolific writer.