Col.3v12-15: Therefore, as the elect of God, holy and beloved, put on tender mercies, kindness, humility, meekness, longsuffering, bearing with one another, and forgiving one another, if anyone has a complaint against another; even as Christ forgave you, so you also must do. But above all, these things put on love, which is the bond of perfection. And let the peace of God rule in your hearts, to which also you were called in one body; and be thankful.

You are welcome back to our discussion on the subject of Resolving your Marital Conflicts! In our last Lesson, I basically introduced the subject to us. Today by his Grace, I will be going a step further more by sharing with you some principles you need to understand if you will successfully resolve the conflicts between you and your spouse. I am super excited about this and I hope you too are because I believe these principles will be of great help and assistance to you! So if you are ready, here we go!

PRINCIPLES FOR RESOLVING MARITAL CONFLICTS:

1. See conflicts as part and parcel of life. The fact that you love each other does not mean you won’t have conflicts in your Marriage. It’s how you respond to conflicts that matter (Jn.16v33).

2. You must be willing to take responsibility and not trade blame. My dear brothers and sisters, if you successfully resolve your conflicts, you can’t afford to trade blame because this will lead you to nowhere in particular, so embrace Peace (Rom.2v1).

3. You must be willing to walk in Love. When I say Love here, I mean Agape, i.e. the Love of God, the unconditional, selfless, and sacrificing love of God. Without this kind of love, it will be difficult to resolve your conflicts amicably. This is something that I have discovered from personal experience and ministry. So take heed my dear reader (Pro.10v12).

4. You must be quick in making peace. This is an important principle that you must bear in mind at all times if you want peace in your home. Seek and pursue peace at all costs. Never allow conflicts to linger for too long in your home (Rom.12v18).

5. You must be willing to shift grounds and make adjustments. You must be open to change because change is the only constant thing in life. My dear friend, you need to eliminate being stubborn, too rigid, or difficult from your life if you successfully resolve your conflicts (Pro.15v12).

6. You must be willing to make amends or take corrections. Nobody knows it all, so if you can’t be corrected, you are not ready to resolve conflicts in your marriage. So as much as possible, endeavour to become a teachable or humble personality. This will help you in becoming a better conflict manager (Pro.29v1).

7. You must be patient and tolerant of each other. Without endurance, it’s difficult to stay and stick together. So make up your mind that you won’t be hasty or rash in your judgment and conclusions. Patience is Power and it’s an important virtue that you need in resolving conflicts amicably (Pro.15v18).

My Dearly Beloved Friends, I trust you have been blessed by these principles we have shared today! May it bring healing and wholeness to your Marriage in Jesus name, amen.

Other Scriptural References: (Pro.19v21; Jn.8v32; Matt.5v8; Philip.2v2; Gen.3v11-14; 1Cor.13v1-8: 4v20; Eph.4v15).

Prayer for Today: Holy Spirit, help me to fully embrace these principles for resolving conflicts in my home in Jesus name, amen.

CONFESSION: I choose to be a peacemaker and not a troublemaker. I am for peace and I walk towards peace in my home and relationships. I refuse to give Satan any opportunity of ruining my peace and happiness. Through the power of the Holy Spirit, I will be on my guard in preventing Satan from entering my Home. Glory be to God; I have the Victory in my Conflicts!