Pro.14 v 1: “The wise woman builds her house, but the foolish pulls it down with her hands.”

Dearly beloved, I trust that you are enjoying this series on “Building Stronger Marriages” and the materials that will make for a stronger family. Whatever level or state your relationship might be with your spouse; it can get better if you are ready to cooperate with the Lord. I believe you desire a stronger family. So, how can this become a reality? It’s by paying attention to another essential material that I will be sharing with you today.

Materials for building stronger marriages:

4. Willingness to work on yourself. This is an essential material that is needed for a solid marriage. If you become a better person, your marriage too will become better i.e. the better you become as a person, the better your marriage and vice-versa. One of the greatest challenges in marriage is the unwillingness to work on oneself. It’s easier to assume that it’s your spouse that needs to change and not you in particular. But if you will be brutally frank with yourself, there are areas you need to improve or work on if you want to have a better marriage. So, realize the change begins first with you and not your spouse (Matt.5v48). Are you ready for this challenge? Are you willing to work on yourself? If the answer is a yes, then there are some important truths you must embrace if the change will begin with you. These truths are as follows:

  • You must accept that you are not perfect or fully matured yet. (1Cor.13v9).
  • You must accept that you have flaws and weaknesses as a person (Rom.8v26).
  • You must be willing to learn or take corrections. Your willingness to learn and grow is a plus in working on yourself successfully (Pro.29v1).
  • You must be willing to change for the better. No change simply means no growth (Mk.1v15).
  • You must be willing to profit from your failures/mistakes.

Precious child of God, these are just some of the things you have to accept if you will ever succeed in working on yourself. I also want you to know that working on yourself in your marriage is a continuous exercise. It’s something you need to keep doing till you die, but one thing is certain, your marriage will change for the better. Why not begin today, as delay can be dangerous. I see your marriage getting better in Jesus name, amen.

Other Scriptural References: (Phil. 2 v 13; Matt. 7 v 1-5; 2 Cor. 13 v 5; 2 Tim. 2 v 20-21; Pro. 25 v 4)

Prayer for Today: Lord, I accept the challenge to work on myself. Holy Spirit, help me to become a better person in Jesus name, amen.

CONFESSION: I commit myself to develop personally. I commit myself to personal growth and development. I embrace change. I desire change and I choose to change for the better. I am also prepared to make the necessary changes in my lifestyle in order to be a better person in my relationship with my spouse and others. Therefore, I am being changed from glory to glory in Jesus name, amen.